I just read an article about consent on the internet. . . and well, I appreciate the logic of the whole metaphor. I really do. I, however, cannot post the link to it without a disclaimer for the language. I cannot claim to have thought of this on my own, so therefore, be aware that the language in the article is GRAPHIC. I will try to paraphrase for the timid so you are not offended. Just want to give credit where it is due. Again I did not think of this analogy. But I think more should be taught to our sons and daughters especially in today's whacked out world, that when you ask a question there are AT LEAST two perfectly acceptable answers. Yes. and No.
Okay before I get into this article let's unpack this concept for a moment.
For the ladies:
How many times have you asked your spouse/bf/so (significant other) to do something when you really didn't mean for them to answer? You asked it in the form of a question almost like the answers on Jeopardy. It's in the form of a question . . . but it is definitely NOT a question.
For example: Will you watch the baby while I grab a quick shower? Is A. Not really a question and B. doesn't even require the person to respond. It is in the form of a question to be polite. But what you are really saying is, "Hey I AM grabbing a quick shower and it IS your responsibility for the next 5.9 minutes to watch the expression of our love aka: our child. Please pay attention because in the next very short (because I am practically an Olympian shower taker now days) minutes you are solely responsible if this child dies!"
For the guys:
Okay, I don't really know . . . oh wait! When a guy wants to have sex? Somehow our twisted world has them believing that THIS is also NOT a question. Maybe it is the way they are made . . . but is that really a good answer to this problem? I think this particular article says it very well.
As I stated before I will paraphrase to compensate for the foul language in the article.
Basically it is fairly easy to find out if the person you are having "sexy times" with is consenting to this or not. The way it was explained was using an ice cream analogy: