Tuesday, March 9, 2010

stand up? sit down? shut up?

Okay, I wasn't going to blog about this, but it is on my heart and I think it should be said, "out loud".

QUESTION:
At what point are you allowed to tell your elders you think their behavior is unacceptable? Keeping in mind that the behavior is not illegal, or even unpopular.

ANSWER:
Never. They have lived longer than you and know more than you, and that's why . . .little whipper-snapper . . .. you never tell your elders what to do. Right?

'Rise in the presence of the aged, show respect for the elderly and revere your God. I am the LORD. Leviticus 19:32

Summing up: Be agreeable, be sympathetic, be loving, be compassionate, be humble. That goes for all of you, no exceptions. No retaliation. No sharp-tongued sarcasm. Instead, bless—that's your job, to bless. You'll be a blessing and also get a blessing. 1 Peter 3:10

Always. They make mistakes in judgment, just like the rest of us, and if their behavior is unacceptable, tell them. Right?

This is a terrific responsibility. Is anyone competent to take it on? No— but at least we don't take God's Word, water it down, and then take it to the streets to sell it cheap. We stand in Christ's presence when we speak; God looks us in the face. We get what we say straight from God and say it as honestly as we can. 2 Corinthians 2:16-17

Well, what is a "nice Southern girl" supposed to do? Always? Never? I just don't know. I was recently placed in a position where I was face to face with this very thing, and I did not agree with it.

In the South you have this "thing", this huge elephant in the living room that no one wants to talk about, called prejudice. I wasn't raised here, but being raised in Kentucky, you would think this wouldn't bother me, but it does. I don't think about me being better than someone else because of what color I am. I do not like those kinds of jokes . . . . and I wasn't raised to see myself as better.

Yes, many of our relatives on both sides of our family have these prejudices. If you ask them, they will say, "No, I'm not prejudiced." . . . but they are. They still have the attitudes even though they don't act on them. The attitudes are still there lying just under the surface.

They tell the jokes about black people being lazy, or Chinese people smelling bad or whatever, and it just gets old after a while.

Still it was one of those things that by itself seems like no big deal. It's just one joke. It's not even THAT bad of a joke. But when you deal with it every day or every week, it gets annoying. So I debated on the "proper" thing to do. Do I confront someone who is my elder? (*brain screaming, NO! NO! NO!*) I just don't think I can do it.

My ultimate solution? The proper thing to do? What do you think . . . . stand up? sit down? or shut up?

1 comment:

  1. definately STAND UP!! WWJD??
    Just a reminder to all christians- we are not perfect..only Jesus- we are to be more like him.
    He would wash the feet of those who looked different or smelled different.
    My friend- I am with you...I am not from here- but have learned a lot in the last 10 years!!
    Pray- then let the Holy Spirit guide your words!!

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